I’m not good at anything isn’t about having hate for oneself, it means that people have been unaware of their Strengths and because of unawareness people stress more on their weaknesses. But this isn’t the truth. The truth is everyone has got some talents and skills. All you need is time with your inner self. This feeling is because of considering others’ strengths. Because when people start comparing themselves with others at that time they focus more on what they are good at but forget about their own strong sides. Let us learn ‘How to Overcome this Feeling that I’m Not Good at Anything?’.
A feeling almost everyone passes through at a certain age. “I’m not good at anything”. “I’m useless”. “I’m hopeless”. “I’m just not worth it”, and many more disappointing statements.
Calm down! Take a seat or Sit under the sky. Now relax, take a deep breath. Know that you’re good at everything you like to do and want to do.
This is a very common feeling as I said, everyone faces at an age. It might come across your mind because of certain things happening around you. Might be because of some kind of pressure, stress, anxiety, tension, depression, etc.
Let’s have a look at what disturbs our mental peace which results in such statements. Not all but some of us are unable to express what we feel.
The power is our Thinking. We always look back at our weaknesses. And forget about our strengths. In this process of negativity, we often forget what we have got some unique skills and how good we are at those things.
Something negative which happens to us gets stuck in our heads. Then we start figuring out why that even happened. It’s good to find reasons about where you lacked but it gets worse when you overthink about the events back to back or again and again. This can disturb your peace of mind (mental health) and lead to depression or mental disorders.
Stop focusing on negative things and start finding out positive things even in your weaknesses.
The conversion of negative words to strengths
Sometimes we go off track and just forget about the most powerful thing which we have with us. This happens because our emotional mind directs us to think more about negative things.
If a person thinks and considers good things at first they might be having a very positive vision towards their life. And if a person thinks and considers the worst stages at first then they might be having a relatively negative vision or simply negative thoughts about the happenings in their lives. Some people fall into another category of considering and balancing both sides by thinking about both. They take little steps while considering or evaluating the things which made them happy or left unhappy.
It is all because of The belief and the faith we have in ourselves. If we believe this would happen on doing that. Then it might take place.
The power and the dangerous thing is our Minds. The real game we play is by our Thinking which is directed to us by our Mind. Our mind is active all the time. No one is really free when it comes to brain work. Everyone is busy thinking or overthinking some of the other things. Then ending up may be positive or negative.
Accordingly, one should have no regrets as well. Don’t overthink about your past events and pressurize your mind. The more you overthink the more you will be stressing and messing up things.
I have even passed through a mental illness stage and overcame it. We always put our characteristic weaknesses first.
Here, we find that we are not as good as others. We are not able to get success as the other people around us achieve. We start comparing our weaknesses with others’ strengths. This way we forget that we also have some strengths which can make us do wonders and help in achieving heights.
Many of us question ‘why’ but no one questions ‘how’. No one tries to get into the depth of the situation and analyze where they made a wrong move. And this makes us think more about negativity. Some people think more about the situations and it’s normal to think that way. Maybe, this can be your strength in knowing people and understanding them more correctly.
Now, don’t overthink about the things which already ruined the state of your mind. Keep it simple. Accept it and just find solutions to it instead of finding more problems. Overthinking about it might worsen your mental health and affect your physical health as well. It might affect your overall health. So stop being careless about your health. Remember you will always have your back in every situation. Start being YOU. And then see the results. It won’t change you, it will develop you. Development is the new change in the process of finding yourself.
How to overcome the feeling of ” I’m not good at anything”?
How to stop thinking like that? Is there no solution to such endless thinking? What to do next? How to overcome it? How can I help myself? What can I do to stop thinking this way all the time? I end up in tears whenever I think this way?
Hold on! Don’t worry. Every problem comes with a solution. And that solution is You. Yes, you read it correctly. The solution is You- yourself. All you need to do is take your time and think about how you can clear the mess. The mess which is inside you. The mess which is making you feel like you’re nothing. The mess which can destroy your peace of mind. The mess can lead to depression. This mess can destroy you more than you could have ever thought of.
Start pushing yourself to opportunities and gratitude then see how it changes you. Start seeking out things that make you feel like how good you are. This will make you confident and realize your worth.
You need to know that the world has a variety of people. All types of people are needed as well. As they possess different interests and talents in every kind of field.
Now that you have got the point and understood it, then this will make it easier for you to proceed with more solutions.
- To make you feel happier inside out.
- To help you develop yourself.
- To keep yourself motivated.
- To let you know your worth.
- To accept the situation.
- To know yourself.
- To start again.
Here are some of the things you can do to overcome this feeling. And free yourselves from self-doubts.
You need to know what you are good at. And how to bring out the best of you.
Some ways to do that is:-
Firstly, have a look at different types of personalities out there. To know about how different types of traits are. To know your traits more accurately. Search it and take a personality test if you want to.
Secondly, ask people to whom you are close and the ones who understand you. Family, friends, your partner ask them about what they love or like in you.
Thirdly, have a deep and thoughtful interaction with yourself. Analyze yourself to the fullest. Think more and more about your likings. And do think about what makes you happy.
Keeping in mind these three things, here are some more points to how to analyze yourself and overcome this feeling.
1. Take a break and Know yourself
Take a break from all the negativity including the most distracting thing which is ‘the great social media. This distraction leads to comparison. Don’t ignore the positive in search of negative things. Know the hidden you. Meet yourself with a different shine.
Who are you? What are your interests? What is the one thing you love to do? What are you supposed to know about yourself? What is that one thing which makes you different? What makes you strong? What makes you weak? At what times of life do you feel neutral?
If you can answer these questions you know yourself at best and remember no one knows you at their best. Only you know yourself at the best and the worst. Be careful with yourself. Give valuable things to yourself to make your life a loving life and a happy place to live in with yourself.
Most importantly if something has happened to you which you are unable to forget or overcome. Then don’t look behind in need of someone’s help. Help yourself at your best. You are enough for yourself. Just don’t let your mind fill up with negative thoughts.
2. Focus on and Know your strengths
What are your goals? Do you know what will fetch you success? The answer is within you. Keep a notebook beside you and answer these questions. Or just make time for yourself and one by one keep answering the questions. And wherever you get stuck just take a deep breath. Hold on! Calm down. It happens. You have your power. Don’t pressurize your mind. You will be able to answer not today but definitely someday.
What are you good at? Some skills. Elaborate on those skills. Even if you are average at it or a beginner, it doesn’t matter. You are learning it is important and it’s appreciable. Don’t compare yourself with others. You might have got some really better skills than them and you never discovered yourself in the process of comparison. Stop comparing. Know who you are, write down whatever you like.
3. You can be good at any damn thing
You don’t have to be perfect but can be good at any damn thing.
It can be speaking, debating, listening, singing, dancing, writing, solving puzzles, art, sketching, and many more things out there. You can be even Good at designing.
Design a dress for yourself. Let people know how good you are at your designing skills. Make something out of the waste that is of no use for now. Recreate it with your ideas. Make a flower pot for yourself. Name it. Give names to the things you make. It can be anything, make a lamp with fancy lights in it and name it your way.
Keep a check on yourself. Keep a check on how you feel. Keep a check about where you react the most and in what situations you feel depressed. Now, if something makes you unhappy or simply hurts you and you are a person who barely says ‘No’. Don’t react much, there are a lot of people who think this way. You are not alone. If someone’s in need, help them with kindness and then one day they’ll probably look after you. No, you don’t need their attention but what you need from them is to understand you at your worst.
4. List down the things you love
You have hobbies, right? Then why not count them. Get excel in them. Start working on them again. If you stopped working on them, get back to it. Get back to your Hobbies. List them down. Discover more hobbies.
What are the things that make you feel confident about yourself? What do you love to do in your spare time? There can be multiple answers to this coming up in your mind. No worries, list it down. It can be a single answer as well. Now when you are listing them down, question yourself why you love or like them? It can be anything. But make sure it makes you happy and it’s yours, not someone’s else.
If you love doing the things you wrote or writing right now. Then consider it in your daily schedule. Give time to what you love. And in return, it will make you feel loved.
List down the things you have no interest in. Now, when you have written what you love, write down the things you don’t. It will make things easy. And help you get rid of the feeling of unworthiness. Cut off the things from your life that makes you feel low. It can be a person as well. Surely, it will be hard but not something you can’t do. You can do it. Yes, if someone makes you feel like this then just cut off ties with them. It doesn’t matter how far you have been with them. What matters is You and your wellness.
5. Make a list of happiness
Give yourself ‘Me’ time and consider those things which make you happy and for which you have always been cherished and got compliments. Be grateful for those things.
What things make you happy? It can be anything. For example, people like to sit under the sky and talk to themselves. They love spending time with themselves. Is that enough to make you happy? Some people love doing things one or the other way. And they are okay with that.
Now, analyze yourself and ask what makes you genuinely happy? Make a good list of how to be happy with whatever you have.
Make a list of what makes you think like this. You are strong enough. Don’t hide. Instead, be strong and kick out all those things which make you think like this. Sometimes, your fear is your biggest strength and you have to discover them.
What makes you upset? What is that feeling which always makes you upset? Are you afraid to lose people? Just because you love them. Sometimes, we have to lose the people we love the most for their happiness. It’s okay to do such things. One day you will know what you did and you’ll be able to put it into great words of explanation. Also, you’ll wonder how you achieved it.
6. What needs improvement? Be honest with yourself
Be honest with yourself in every manner. Know yourself at the deepest. You don’t have to hide from being you. Be true to yourself. Everyone needs replacement or recovery so do you.
Now, because you have noted what you love to do and not to do, your interests and everything else. Mark those things which need improvement. Which can be done in a better way than earlier. How to shape them? How to polish yourself? Answer the questions in a very positive way. You’ll surely be able to bring out the best solution for yourself.
See things and understand things. Are you a person who doesn’t observe things very often? Then no worries, start noticing things around you. Why are they behind you, beside you, or with you to date? Because you have made them worthy. Then why can’t you make yourself worth it?
And if you are an observer then just find out why things or people around you stick to you or don’t stick to you. Give reasons for it. And make yourself worth it.
Choose the best for yourself. Let this time not go to waste and just put in all the effort and put yourself first.
7. Accept yourself as you are
You don’t have to be perfect. No one can be perfect. We often hate criticism and love being known and popular for some skills and talents we have. There can be someone who is also good at the same skills as you. Appreciate them, don’t feel low about yourself. You just need much more practice at it. Do practice. Revise it. Accept it.
Is it difficult for you to accept things in the first place? Is it difficult to catch someone with the same vibes as yours? Accept it. Accept that you’re different from them. It’s normal to hate clubbing and loving clubbing at the same time. It’s normal to cry alone and in front of strangers. Because this is you.
If you are not able to open up with your loved one’s then here might be some reasons for it. Accept those reasons and go ahead.
How you carry yourself is important to know how you carry yourself. At the same time, it’s important to know how you want to be carried out. You just have to be comfortable with yourself and hang out with yourself. Know your worth. Stick to things that make you comfortable.
8. One thing you love about yourself
One thing which makes you, your true self. Give the best reason to whatever you think is lovely in you. Prioritize it and yourself. It can be your genuineness that makes you feel confident about yourself at some places and with some people.
Write questions about yourself. Do you know yourself now? If yes, then you can ask questions and answer the same as well in very different ways. And will be able to know what’s good and what’s not.
And if no, then no problem. Relax. Understand that it takes time to get used to something. Without any other thought blundering up in your mind just right some questions you want to ask yourself.
9. Stand near a mirror and see yourself
Now, Look at yourself in the mirror. Close your eyes for a few seconds. Whoa! It’s you. It’s a new you. Smile please, the new you are looking at you. You are special. You are loved. You are what you want to be. You are yourself. You are happiest. You are having a great life. It’s a life given to you as a gift. It’s an opportunity. Don’t waste it. Use it as much as you can. Love it. It’s totally yours. This is something you have without asking for it from someone else. Stay happy with whatever you have because not everyone has a beautiful life like yours. You are worth it. Your progress doesn’t equal your worth. Remember that.
10. Love yourself
Last but not least. Love being you. You are your first and last love. You are your priority. Say, I LOVE YOU in front of the mirror. I love myself. Repeat, that you love your life. Speak out loud. Smile again. Hold your back, you are the person who will always be there for you. Love.
Note: Don’t let this positivity go in vain by being negative. Ignore the negativity. Ignore what makes your approach negative.
These all are the kind of steps you can surely do to improve and develop as well as know what you are truly good at. These will help you recognize what you have been seeking around for so long. It will take time but will develop your thinking criteria. Make you thoughtful. It will change your mindset. You will not be easily led down by others anymore. You will be able to analyze and think critically to overcome some problems. You will find more answers instead of more problems.
Do this and you will definitely see a change in yourself. A new one is waiting for you. More love to you. Love yourself, love your life. Love things that give you a reason to love more. Love your mind and it will love you. Accept who you are and the world will accept you. Build a new image of yourself. Have confidence in yourself. Have faith in yourself. You deserve it. You can do it. You will do it.
All it takes is a little time with yourself. Wear a smile wherever you go and see things changing. Notice everything but do what suits you. You will embrace yourself. You will start seeing things differently. You will get whatever you want just by resetting your mind with a new version of yourself. Reset. Restart. Refresh. Reboot. Remember these four R’s.
Do a reunion with yourself. Hang out with yourself and see how the previous You will get over the old you and will cherish the new you.
You’re worth it- Love yourself
